I Kissed Dating Goodbye: By Joshua Harris

[David]

Goooooood stuff y'all. Any thoughts on this book? It's really revolutionary to our world. Some people are offended by the topic and the stance that Josh has on the whole matter.

Any thoughts? ....

Here's some things that stood out to me from the first chapter...

"Smart love constantly grows and deepens in its
practical knowledge and insight; it opens our eyes to see
God's best for our lives, enabling us to be pure and
blameless in His sight."(pg 21)

- This is great, it's about God and what He has, not about us and what we want!

"You need to use your head and test your feelings so that
your love is sincere and intelligent, not sentimental gush."(pg
22)

- I have to constantly test my feelings with everything, I never want to assume that my feelings are God centered and God glorifying.

"Don't choose what feels good for you, instead choose what
is good for others and what pleases God." (pg 22)


- This one struck me, I realized how often my desires where and are to please and satisfy myself. But the Lord is doing a work in my heart, more and more I am desiring to serve and honor others in everything I do.

What do you think?

[Julia]

I really like the book, and how he keeps it Christ-centered. It's sad that many people are offended by it, since he treats the topic in such a (in my opinion) gentle way. I liked his thoughts about taking advantage of single life in order to furthur your relationship with God and learn how to love all the people He puts in your life - not just viewing singleness as a temporary step that you have to endure as you push toward marriage. If we aren't serving God with abandon while we're single, the situation probably won't change much once we're married.

[Savannah]

Wow...it's probably been 6 years since I last read that book! Hmm...

What I remember most is that he didn't step up on a soap box and condemn the world of "dating." He shared how he came to the conclusion to stop casual "dating" and developed a more "courtship" minded view. Then he proceeded to go on about the wonders of singleness.

That book greatly affected my outlook on being single from an early age, and so being single is not something I've ever struggled with. I do not envy my married friends, finding the single life quite pleasurable.

Umm..it's late--and my brain is still pretty much a puddle of oozing blah. So g'night.

(I'm one of those people who don't like the terms "dating" and "courtship." There is too much of a stigma with each. I prefer "pursuing a relationship" or "casual dating." This is just my own opinion and you can ask me about it if you want. Just wanted to explain the quotation marks.)

[pengo]

I've never heard of that book before but it sounds very interesting.

[Marissa]

I've heard about this book but never read it. I think I might pick it up and actually read it. I'll post my opinion after I read it.